It’s fun and even useful to have a personal site that archives all my social media updates – Twitter, Flickr, Facebook and such – and then is searchable so I can go back and see things in the past.
Yesterday, I came across something interesting.
See, Terra and I were friends for a long time before we became fully romantically involved. Our lives intersected in December of 2007 when she and Wesley moved in with my mom and I so we could all help each other
after dad’s death and Terra’s divorce. After a year or so together, we had grown very close. But the best it ever got was when I would refer to her as my “girlish friend” rather than girlfriend, and comment that ours was just a “proximity infatuation”, and that I was really unsure where our relationship was heading.
I remember the incident that caused me to realize how much she meant to me but, until digging around my site yesterday, didn’t have exact dates.
So, firstly, I see on my lifestream for February 4, 2009, that I referred to her as my “statistically significant other”. I doubt that’s the only time I’d publicly said something similar but this one is interesting because of the date. Just a couple days later, there was the incident that made me so fearful she was dead or something almost as bad that I had to concede that she was more to me than the descriptions above. You can read that here (the last three status updates). I called the hospital, police, paced back and forth – the whole bit – then couldn’t stop crying when I found out she was ok.
I remember that it was within the next day or so that I sat down and talked with Terra and acknowledged that I had been in some kind of denial for quite some time but the incident had really opened my eyes. We have been truly a couple ever since that day.
See the difference in my birthday tweet for her in 2010 and 2011, for instance.
And now, of course, we are marrying on January 14, 2012 🙂